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on a happier note..

i tink my previous blog was kinda depressing but im over it now!! u know there are just days where evrything seems to be going wrong and feels like evrything is out of control..thats what i felt this morning?yep yep..blog therapy i gues..ive let it all out now and im okie now =)

i went to watch oceans 13 with cathrin just now and we saw jo there..we were buying the tickets and alll then as we were walking i looked at the ticket and it was like CHILD...the lady thought we were both under 15!!.hahaha what the hell we were laughing like maD!! i mean HELLO!!..hahha no wonder the ticket was like under 10 bucks!!we were laughing like crazy!!we alwes have weird thigns happen to us..we were walking by the river and this man was joggin and he ran quite near to me and he accidentally punched my ARM!! my goodneSS!!and he just continued running i was like Jerk!!.yeah anywes..that was ridiculous...

our school dining hall just had this total make over and now the food is like sooo good and all..its like we even have artistic procelain plates..cathrin and i got overly excited over them!!..ahaha then they have soup corne n salad whatver...they even have grapes,strawberries,kiwis,pineapple and melonss!! we had a fruit FEast =) and smoothiess...ahahha...i dunno why we got so excitedd over that and th best thing abt it is that we dont have to clear our trays we just leave it in tray thing where last time we had to clear it ourselveSS!!..aahha and they even served salmon thingyyss..eheh....such a huge improvementt from the last time..yeah just thought id sharee that +_+
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i kinda copied and pasted this from another site but i just had to share =)

This is a very good article. read it. Those who are still single may learn something from here.... Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage.... DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind. Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love."

Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.

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basically u need to find sumone u think is worth fighting for cus basically it is a battle and u have to know that all the effort u put in a relationship will be worth it in the end and that he will be there for the long haul..i dun believe in changing boyfriends like changing a t-shirt cuz personally i dun think its right..young or old...u can never control who u fall in love with and loving sumone completely doesnt mean u have to give up some parts of ur life..cus the one u love will love u for u and evrything that comes along with u..its all about compromisee...i was naive before but im not anymore..thank you!